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Why the past keeps repeating itself

Life doesn’t just happen. We interact with life in a very specific way which produces a very specific result. When you change how you relate to life, you change what happens around you.

Look at your life and notice that there are certain areas of your life that don’t work. These areas of suffering may clear up from time to time, but they keep coming back. They keep coming back because we create them.

These areas may seem to be the problem, but they are not. They are the symptom. If you have a relationship, or any other area of life that isn’t working, there will always be an underlying condition that is creating the problem.

This condition creates a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. It makes us defensive. It destroys our ability to see clearly and forces destructive behavior. Ultimately, this underlying condition is created and fueled by the automatic, subconscious avoidance of a very specific suppressed hurt. Here is how it works:

When you were born, you were pure love, but you were born into a world that suppresses this state. You then got hurt and got hurt a lot. As a little child, you couldn’t help but blame yourself. “Clearly I’m the problem.” In a moment of deep hurt, you created the belief that you were worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling not okay.

It’s never the truth that we are this way, it’s just an old hurt, but it’s a hurt that totally runs our lives. Any circumstance that triggers this suppressed emotion is perceived subconsciously as a threat. To avoid this perceived threat, we fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. We destroy love and create more suffering.

Every area of life that doesn’t work and every self-sabotaging behavior pattern can be traced directly to this hurt. Finding and healing this suppressed emotion is one of the most important things you can ever do. Until you heal it, you will be forced to repeat the past.

Fortunately, healing this hurt relatively easy. The moment this happens, you restore your ability to see clearly. Solutions appear and life starts clearing up.

The best way to heal this hurt is to let me walk you through the healing process. You can also watch the Mastery of Life Video Course and read the book, Get Your Power Back. To learn more about these underlying conditions, click here.

Create a life of prosperity

When we get upset about money, we think that the problem is the lack of income, but this is seldom the case. Most of the people in this world would love to have our level of income. The problem is how we handle the money that we have. Most of us overspend.

We use every resource available to raise our standard of living. The result is a lifestyle where expenses can equal or exceed our income. When this happens, you can expect to be upset. No matter what your income is, it will soon be gone. You will never have enough. This creates a consciousness of lack which then produces more lack.

Now notice what your prosperity consciousness would be like if you took 10% of everything you earned since you were eighteen years old and invested it wisely. What would your prosperity consciousness be like? You would be wealthy and your prosperity consciousness would be one of abundance.

So why do we overspend? We overspend in an attempt to get more of what we want. But no matter what we have, it will never be enough. We always want more. We are driven by our wants and our wants are insatiable. You can never get enough of what you want because the void you are trying to fill isn’t outside of you, it’s inside, and it can only be filled from within.

We overspend in a subconscious attempt to make life be a certain way. We do this so we won’t have to feel the hurt of a core issue. For example, if someone is running from failure, that person will tend to overspend in order to feel like a success. Unfortunately, overspending creates more failure.

To heal this inner void and to remove the need to overspend, find the hurt that drives your insatiable wants. What would it say about you if you lost everything: your job, your home and all your possessions? Dive into this hurt and feel it willingly like a child. Own this part of you.

Get to the place where you are totally willing to have nothing. When you are truly willing to have nothing, something very special happens. You become very thankful for everything you have, and you have a lot.

When you deeply appreciate what you have, you experience a profound state of abundance. This in turn produces more abundance. When you focus on what you have, what you have grows. When you focus on what you don’t have, what you don’t have grows.

True prosperity is spending less than you earn and appreciating what you have.

This article was taken from lesson 28 of the Mastery of Life Ecourse.

Are you willing to be vulnerable?

For most people, the thought of being vulnerable is very threatening. We think this will open us up to getting hurt. Actually, it’s the other way around. Being vulnerable is your greatest protection. When your walls of protection are down, you radiate love. This dissolves opposition and resistance against you. Getting hurt then becomes a lot less likely.

Look in the face of someone who has little or no walls of protection. What do you see? The words that you would use to describe this person are the same words that you would use to describe the experience of love. They are the same words because this person is radiating love.

Now find someone whose walls are thick. Notice how uncomfortable you feel. This person is pushing away love. The same thing happens when your walls are up. You push away love. You also create an environment where people can’t be themselves around you. Then they put up their walls and become negative in return.

When two people in a relationship have their walls up, a heart to heart connection becomes very difficult. Instead of creating a relationship of love, they create one of conflict and distance.

When you are willing to be vulnerable, people feel safe around you. Their put down their walls and automatically express love in return. When you have two people expressing love, you have a great relationship.

We keep our walls up because we think this will somehow protect us from the hurt, but what side of the wall is the hurt on? The hurt we avoid isn’t outside of us. It’s inside. Our walls don’t keep the hurt out, they keep the hurt in. Instead of protecting us, they push away love and sabotage our lives.

Being willing to be vulnerable is one of the keys to a great life. It’s also a state of mind. Like letting go, it’s totally separate from your actions. You can be vulnerable and still say no and do whatever you need to do. Just do it with love.

Be willing to be hurt again and again. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens. Open your heart and express your love. As you do this, you change the world around you. You bring out the best in people and you create a life full of love and joy. You are also a lot less likely to be hurt.

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The key to having difficult times come and go quickly

There was a day when I was a little discouraged. My work was slow, my thinking was negative, and I was definitely out of the light. To get back in the light, I went for a long walk. During the walk, I saw the key to having difficult times come and go quickly.

The first thing I did was to identify the specific circumstances that I was resisting. I saw that I had a fear of my work becoming slower and slower and eventually ending. This was a painful thought. Then I looked and saw a deeper fear. I saw that I could lose my income. I could become homeless and unable to care for myself. This was a very scary thought.

Then I looked for the hurt that was under my fear. I asked what it would say about me if my fear came true. As soon as I looked, I saw the hurt that was running my life. I saw that if my fear came true, this would prove that I am a worthless loser.

The moment I saw this, all the hurt of being a worthless loser came up. I then felt it willingly like a child. I let it come and I let it go. Suddenly, I experienced a wonderful freedom. In my willingness to feel the hurt, my fear lost its power.

With the fear and upset gone, I experienced a wonderful state of peace. In this peace, I was reminded that the key to dealing with difficult times is always the same. Trust, let go, and keep taking the next step. When you do this, everything works out for the best. Always.

Then I saw another step. We need to get our joy from within, not from our circumstances. As Albus Dumbledore once said, “Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, when one only remembers to turn on the light.”

A few minutes later, I stopped at a bench on my walk and turned on the light. I started meditating and let in the joy. In a few moments I was beaming. I was back in the light and life was wonderful once again.

In this state of peace, everything looked different. I saw my situation in a very different way and could see what I needed to do. My circumstances didn’t change, but now I am on top of them.

The next time you are in a difficult time, remember these steps:

    • Find the specific circumstances that you are resisting

    • Find your hurt and feel it willingly like a child

    • Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens

    • Be willing for anything to happen

    • Keep taking the next step and the next step

    • Get your joy back and get it from inside of you

These are the steps to restoring your inner peace and your ability to see clearly. They also have you look in a direction where solutions and opportunity show up.

To learn more about how to deal with difficult times, read the articles and watch the videos.

Creating possibility – One of the keys to a great life

One day I felt discouraged and my thinking was negative. Then I started looking at what was possible for my life. Suddenly, everything changed. I saw a possibility for my life that I could get excited about. In a split second, I became very positive, full of joy, hope and aliveness. Creating possibility changed my life in a very positive way.

When you have something special to go for, life becomes an exciting adventure. You have direction and purpose, a reason to wake up in the morning. Having something special to go for is one of the keys to creating a great life.

When you have nothing to go for, life has no purpose. It feels empty and meaningless. Instead of life being a source of joy, it becomes something you have to endure, and a life to be endured is not much fun. So, if you don’t have something special to go for, find something. Find it as fast as you can. Then take whatever steps you need to have your dreams come true.

If you don’t see possibility, start looking for it. Do some daydreaming. Einstein has a quote that I love. He said that imagination is more important that knowledge. This is so true. Imagination creates possibility. So imagine. What could your life be like? Take some time and find something that you are excited about. Then go for it. Having something special to go for can bring you lots of joy.

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