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Trust that you will always be okay

At any moment, the circumstances of your life are the way that they are. This is true whether you like it or not. When you can flow with the truth of the way your situation is, you see clearly and can see what needs to be done. Look at the areas of your life that work great. These are areas where you can flow with whatever happens. Now look at the areas of your life that don’t work. These are areas where you can’t flow.

When you fight the truth of the way your situation is, you create a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. You destroy your ability to find solutions and force destructive behavior. The moment you let go of the resisting, everything changes. You see your situation clearly. Solutions appear and this area of life starts clearing up.

The ability to let go and flow with life is one of the most important skills you can ever learn. It removes the emotion and allows you to see what action you need to take. To make the process of letting go a lot easier, there are two steps you can take. The first step is to trust. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens. When you know that you will be okay no matter what happens, your circumstances lose power and letting go becomes relatively easy.

Ultimately, trust is a choice. It is something you create. You create trust by your declaration. “I will be okay no matter what happens. I trust, just because I say so.” The more you trust, the more you are able to let go. Solutions appear, problem areas clear up, and you become more able to trust.

Trusting is also telling the truth. You really will be okay no matter what happens. A good way to see this is to look at your life. You have had difficult times before and you have made it through every one of them. If you are in a difficult time now, this too will pass. Difficult times don’t come and stay. They come and go. How fast they go depends on whether you fight them or flow with them. When you flow with a difficult time, it comes and goes quickly.

In terms of spirituality, difficult times are brought to us. They are brought to us for our healing and our growth. They force us to look at areas we wouldn’t otherwise look at. They put our issues in our face so we can heal them. They kick us out of the nest and they get us ready for our future.

Difficult times are brought to us for our good. Look at the difficult times in your past and notice that good has come from every one of them. So trust. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens.

The second step in letting go is to be willing to feel your hurt and get this negative emotion out of you. This is extremely important because it’s the automatic avoidance of this emotion that forces us to fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. We’ll talk more about this in the next newsletter.

If you are having trouble letting go or if you have an area of life that isn’t working, give me a call. I can show you how to let go of the resisting and resolve the problem area. A couple of sessions can create a healing and an awareness that will change your life.

What is transformation?

We have been taught and we believe that happiness and upsets come from outside of ourselves. We then go through life trying to force people and life to be a certain way. We fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. We that think that this will somehow bring us the happiness that we seek, but it doesn’t. Instead, it creates a life of fear, upset and suffering.

On the surface, we avoid certain circumstances, but at a deeper level, we don’t avoid the circumstances. We avoid all the feelings and emotion that get triggered by our circumstances. It’s the automatic avoidance of this suppressed hurt that sabotages our lives. This avoidance creates a state of fear, upset, and tunnel vision. It destroys our ability to see what needs to be done and it forces destructive behavior.

If you could let go of the resisting and be willing in your heart for anything to happen, the fear and upset would disappear. You would see clearly and be very effective. Solutions would appear and the problem areas of your life would start clearing up. Life always works when you let go and trust. You also experience the very essence of who you are.

Who you are, under all the hurt, is pure love, pure creation, and pure possibility. When you are in this state, you are in the experience of love. You are happy, alive and free. The circumstances of your life have no power. You have a very positive attitude and great things happen around you.

When you experience who you are, you will be moved to tears. This is transformation. It takes place when you discover that the circumstances of your life are an illusion and that the only thing that’s real is love. The moment you discover this, your life will never be the same. The rest of your life will then be about developing your ability to live in this state.

As you bring forth this beautiful state of oneness, you create a life more wonderful than anything you can imagine. You also tap into the power of the universe. You can call this power God, love, or the light. It doesn’t matter what you call it. What’s important is to discover that it exists, to connect with it, and to bring it forth into your life. This is the purpose and essence of transformation.  This is also the purpose of our work.

Letting go: One of the most important skills you can ever learn

Have you ever had a time when you actively resisted something? Then, for whatever reason, you let go of the resisting and said, “The heck with it.” Notice what happened. Instantly, everything changed. The fear, upset, and tunnel vision disappeared. You restored your inner peace and your ability to see clearly. Solutions appeared and this area of life started clearing up.

Life always works when we let go of the resisting. It’s only when we get the ego involved that life stops working. It’s the resisting and hanging on that sabotages our lives. You remove the resisting through a process called “letting go.” To see how the process works, let’s look at the nature of fear.

Fear is an inner state and is created by resisting a future event. The more you resist the future event, the bigger your fear. The bigger your fear, the more you feel threatened. The more you feel threatened, the more you act destructively, which causes your fear to come true.

When you are in a state of fear, you get tunnel vision and lose your ability to see clearly. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. Almost anything you do in this state makes your situation worse. To be free of the tunnel vision and to have a problem area clear up, get rid of the fear.

To have a fear lose it’s power, do the opposite of what creates it. Instead of resisting the future event, be willing for the event to come true — not in your actions, but in your heart. In your actions, do everything you can to make sure your fear doesn’t come true, but in your heart, be willing. “If it happens it happens. I’ll deal with it.”

When you are willing for your fear to come true, the fear loses power. Instantly, the tunnel vision disappears. You see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. You become very effective. This is letting go.

Letting go is strictly a state of mind and is totally separate from your actions. Letting go is the inner technique that removes the fear, upset, and tunnel vision so you can see what action you need to take. So be willing. Be willing for your fears to come true and for your situation to never change. Restore your inner peace and your ability to see clearly. Then take whatever action you need to do to have your life be great.

The ability to let go is one of the most important skills you can ever learn. It is one of the keys to creating an incredible life. It’s also easier said than done. To make letting go easier, there are two things you can do. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens and be willing to feel your hurt. We will talk more about this in the next two newsletters.

If letting go is difficult, let me walk you through the healing process. You can also watch the Mastery of Life Video Course and read the book, Get Your Power Back.

30 years of doing this work

This Sunday is the 30th anniversary of the day I closed my law practice and started doing this work full time. Since then, I have led over 3,000 workshops and speaking engagements. I have written 8 books, including re-writes, and have had thousands of consulting appointments. That’s a lot of people. I hope to be doing this for another 30 years. Thanks for all your love and support.

Why the past keeps repeating itself

Life doesn’t just happen. We interact with life in a very specific way which produces a very specific result. When you change how you relate to life, you change what happens around you.

Look at your life and notice that there are certain areas of your life that don’t work. These areas of suffering may clear up from time to time, but they keep coming back. They keep coming back because we create them.

These areas may seem to be the problem, but they are not. They are the symptom. If you have a relationship, or any other area of life that isn’t working, there will always be an underlying condition that is creating the problem.

This condition creates a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. It makes us defensive. It destroys our ability to see clearly and forces destructive behavior. Ultimately, this underlying condition is created and fueled by the automatic, subconscious avoidance of a very specific suppressed hurt. Here is how it works:

When you were born, you were pure love, but you were born into a world that suppresses this state. You then got hurt and got hurt a lot. As a little child, you couldn’t help but blame yourself. “Clearly I’m the problem.” In a moment of deep hurt, you created the belief that you were worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling not okay.

It’s never the truth that we are this way, it’s just an old hurt, but it’s a hurt that totally runs our lives. Any circumstance that triggers this suppressed emotion is perceived subconsciously as a threat. To avoid this perceived threat, we fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. We destroy love and create more suffering.

Every area of life that doesn’t work and every self-sabotaging behavior pattern can be traced directly to this hurt. Finding and healing this suppressed emotion is one of the most important things you can ever do. Until you heal it, you will be forced to repeat the past.

Fortunately, healing this hurt relatively easy. The moment this happens, you restore your ability to see clearly. Solutions appear and life starts clearing up.

The best way to heal this hurt is to let me walk you through the healing process. You can also watch the Mastery of Life Video Course and read the book, Get Your Power Back. To learn more about these underlying conditions, click here.