It seems like more than ever, people are struggling in some area of their lives. Since so many people are suffering, I thought it would be helpful to give you some tips on how to be more effective in difficult times. This is important because how you relate to a difficult situation determines your mental well-being, your effectiveness, and how long the difficult time lasts.
To be most effective, there are things to do on the inside and action to take on the outside. The most important is the inner work. Restore your inner peace. When you have inner peace, you see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. When you are full of fear and upset, you can’t see anything. You shut down and lose your ability to find solutions. You get tunnel vision and tend to make your situation worse.
If you are in a difficult situation, your top priority is to get rid of the fear and upset. This is the key to being effective. You do this through a process called letting go. The next step is to create a plan of action.
Here are the specific steps:
1. Identify the specific circumstances that you are resisting. What happened? What are you avoiding? What do you fear? Be as specific as possible.
2. Take the focus off of your circumstances and focus on the hurt that is being triggered. Then dive into it. Cry it as hard as you can. It’s the emotion that sabotages your effectiveness, so get it out of you. Feel it deliberately and purposefully. Let it come and let it go.
3. Trust that you will be okay. This makes it easier to flow with whatever happens. Notice that you have had difficult times before and you have made it through every one of them. You will make it through this one too.
4. Let go. Be willing for your situation to never change and for your fears to come true – Not in your actions, but in your heart. This removes the fear and upset. You can then focus on solutions instead of resisting.
5. After you restore your inner peace, take a fresh look at your situation. Then, based on facts instead of emotion, create a plan of action. What do you need to do? What steps do you need to take?
6. Take action. The moment you create a plan of action and start taking steps to handle your situation, you get your power back. Instead of your situation being on top of you, you are now on top of your situation.
7. Take care of you. Find things you can do that recharge the batteries of your soul. Then do them often. The more you are recharged, the more you see clearly and the more effective you will be.
Life isn’t always sunny. Sometimes you have to go through a storm. Fortunately, storms are always temporary. Your job is to get past the storm as fast as you can. Keep restoring your inner peace and keep taking the next step. Eventually, you will get past the turmoil and your life will be great again.
If letting go is difficult or if you want support in handling a difficult situation, give me a call. I can walk you through the process of handling this area of your life. Learn more. I look forward to hearing from you.