Articles from January 2011

Whenever you are in the presence of an aspect of your life that isn’t working, you lose some of your aliveness and peace of mind. Part of you closes down inside.

You may have a painful relationship or bills you can’t pay. You may have a messy house or job you can’t stand. These conditions of unworkability may be as minor as a squeaky chair or as destructive as a contested divorce, but every one of them pulls you out of the experience of love.

We also make handling these conditions a low priority. We would rather suffer than take the time to resolve them. As time goes on, these conditions accumulate. Life becomes less enjoyable and we don’t know why.
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Being right and having love are opposite. In order to be right, you have to make the other person wrong. This destroys love. It also invites conflict. When you have love, it doesn’t matter who’s right, and conflict disappears.

I saw this demonstrated years ago in a former relationship. Whenever we had an argument, the lady I was with would say, “I’m sorry. Will you please forgive me?” This would instantly melt any resistance I had towards her. My upset disappeared and the experience of love returned.

It didn’t matter if she was right or wrong, or if she should be forgiven or not. She didn’t care. She just wanted to get the experience of love back in her relationship.
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