Articles from February 2011

Whenever you have an argument, there are two people participating. Each person is pushing his or her point of view on the other, and no one is listening. Nothing is getting resolved and the cycle of conflict is escalating dramatically.

Disagreements are fine, but arguments are very destructive. You can say a harsh word in an argument that results in a divorce four years later. You can clean up what you said, but you can never take it back.

The next time you find yourself in an argument, stop and listen. Hear what the other person is saying and hear it from that person’s perspective. You don’t have to like what the person is saying and you don’t have to agree with it. All you have to do is listen.
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One of Houston’s top cancer surgeons talked to me after one of our workshops. She said that science is discovering a direct link between emotional issues and cancer. She then said that I had the key to healing these destructive inner issues. We met a few times after that and decided to do healing programs for cancer patients.

I have known that any area of life that isn’t working can be traced to an automatic, subconscious avoidance of a very specific hurt. I could see this clearly in the area of relationships and prosperity. It made sense that this would also apply in the area of health, but I haven’t placed much focus on this area of life. Now I started looking.

All the medical studies I found focused on the connection between cancer and resentment, unresolved issues from the past, upsets, and so on. All of these are the result of suppressed emotion. As I studied healing, it became very obvious that the one of the most important factors in healing is the willingness to feel your hurt. This allows negative emotion to come and go.
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