Articles from January 2020

My wife and I have a cat and that cat won’t bark. I can yell at the cat and plead with the cat, but no matter what I do, the cat still won’t bark. That’s the truth. If I am at peace with this truth, I will see my situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. If I want to hear barking, I can get a dog.

If I am fighting the truth, the opposite happens. All my focus will be on the cat. I will be convinced that the cat is the problem, but the cat is not the problem. The cat is just the cat. The problem is my fighting the truth.

When I fight the truth, I make my situation worse. Instead of focusing on solutions, my focus is on resisting. This creates a state of fear and upset. It destroys my ability to see clearly and forces destructive behavior. I won’t see the possibility of getting a dog and I will create a nightmare in my relationship with the cat.
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