Articles from June 2024

On the surface we resist certain circumstances, but at a deeper level, we don’t resist our circumstances, we resist all the emotion that gets triggered by our circumstances.

To see how this works, let’s start by looking at the illusion of upsets. Find a time when you were upset. Didn’t something happen? Yes, it happened. Now notice how totally irrelevant your feelings were. No matter how upset you were, what happened still happened.

Now notice what would happen to the upset if somehow, you were at peace with what happened. The upset would disappear. It would disappear because upsets are not caused by what happened. Upsets are a state of mind and can only exist if we fight what happened.
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Being right and having love are opposites. In order to be right, you have to make the other person wrong. This destroys love and creates conflict. When you have love, it doesn’t matter who is right, and conflict disappears.

I saw this demonstrated years ago in a former relationship. Whenever we had an argument, the lady I was with would say, “I’m sorry. Will you please forgive me?” This would instantly melt any resistance I had towards her. My upset disappeared and the experience of love returned. It didn’t matter if she was right or wrong, or if she should be forgiven or not. She didn’t care. She just wanted to get the experience of love back in her relationship.
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