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One of Houston’s top cancer surgeons talked to me after one of our workshops. She said that science is discovering a direct link between emotional issues and cancer. She then said that I had the key to healing these destructive inner issues. We met a few times after that and decided to do healing programs for cancer patients.

I have known that any area of life that isn’t working can be traced to an automatic, subconscious avoidance of a very specific hurt. I could see this clearly in the area of relationships and prosperity. It made sense that this would also apply in the area of health, but I haven’t placed much focus on this area of life. Now I started looking.

All the medical studies I found focused on the connection between cancer and resentment, unresolved issues from the past, upsets, and so on. All of these are the result of suppressed emotion. As I studied healing, it became very obvious that the one of the most important factors in healing is the willingness to feel your hurt. This allows negative emotion to come and go.
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Whenever you are in the presence of an aspect of your life that isn’t working, you lose some of your aliveness and peace of mind. Part of you closes down inside.

You may have a painful relationship or bills you can’t pay. You may have a messy house or job you can’t stand. These conditions of unworkability may be as minor as a squeaky chair or as destructive as a contested divorce, but every one of them pulls you out of the experience of love.

We also make handling these conditions a low priority. We would rather suffer than take the time to resolve them. As time goes on, these conditions accumulate. Life becomes less enjoyable and we don’t know why.
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Being right and having love are opposite. In order to be right, you have to make the other person wrong. This destroys love. It also invites conflict. When you have love, it doesn’t matter who’s right, and conflict disappears.

I saw this demonstrated years ago in a former relationship. Whenever we had an argument, the lady I was with would say, “I’m sorry. Will you please forgive me?” This would instantly melt any resistance I had towards her. My upset disappeared and the experience of love returned.

It didn’t matter if she was right or wrong, or if she should be forgiven or not. She didn’t care. She just wanted to get the experience of love back in her relationship.
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I went to a restaurant today and saw an elderly gentleman cleaning off tables. He walked with a limp and didn’t look like he had much money. When he walked by, I gave him $20 and wished him well.

His reaction surprised me. His face lit up like he had won the lottery. He was so thankful for the gift. He then asked if he could get me some iced tea or something more to eat. He wanted to give back to me in any way that he could.

I was deeply moved by his appreciation and his eagerness to return the favor. In that moment, I felt like I had won the lottery. I made a difference in his life. I have spent lots of money over the years doing things that I thought would bring me happiness, but nothing has brought me more joy than giving this man a $20 bill.

I’m sure the money was important to him, but more than that, I suspect that he was appreciative for having been recognized as a human being. He felt loved.

As you go through life, look for ways to empower people and have them feel loved. It’s amazing the difference we can make in someone’s life with such a small amount of effort.

Life is like a giant monopoly game. The problem is that we weren’t given the rules. Not only that, we were given a set of instructions that are totally opposite of the truth. This sets us up for serious suffering.

We are taught that happiness and upsets come from outside of ourselves. We then go through life trying to force our circumstances to be a particular way. We fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. We think this will bring us the happiness we seek, but it doesn’t. Instead, of bringing us happiness, it destroys happiness and creates a state of fear, upset and suffering.

This is the wilderness of illusion that we live in. When you are in this state, all the focus is on the circumstances. This is the realm of darkness. This state is also called the separateness, being of the world, and the realm of circumstances.
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