Transforming the Quality of Life
The problem areas of life are not the problem
This video is from The Mastery Course
Most of us have a relationship or an area of life that isn't working. These problem areas seem to be the result of another person or our circumstances, but this is an illusion that creates needless suffering. The problem areas of life are not the problem. They are the symptom.
If you have any area of life that isn't working, there is an underlying condition of resisting or hanging on that is either creating the problem or destroying your ability to resolve it. This condition makes us defensive and creates a state of fear and upset. It destroys our ability to see clearly and forces destructive behavior.
Fortunately, this condition can be found and removed. The moment this happens, you restore your ability to see clearly. You can then take action based on facts instead of emotion. Solutions appear and this area of life starts clearing up. To see how this condition works, let's look at the nature of reality.
There is a huge difference between the reality of life and our reality. When we look at life, we think we are observing the truth of the universe, but we are not. We are observing our truth.
In the reality of life, things just are. What happened is what happened. What's so is what's so. Period. Then there is our reality. Our reality consists of thoughts, feelings, emotion, and points of view. There is the truth and there are our feelings about it.
The truth and our feelings have nothing to do with each other. They are never connected in reality. They are only connected in our mind. In reality, our circumstances are the way they are and our feelings about it are totally irrelevant.
To see an example of this, find a time when you were upset. Didn't something happen? Yes. Something happened. That's the truth. It happened. Now notice how totally irrelevant your feelings were. No matter how upset you were, the event still happened. Your feelings may affect your future actions, but they don't change the truth. What happened still happened.
Now notice what would happen to the upset if you were at peace with what happened. The upset would disappear. It would disappear because upsets are not caused by what happens. Upsets are a state of mind and can only exist if we fight what happens.
When you are at peace with the truth of the way something is, you have peace of mind. You may not like what you see, but you see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. Look at the areas of your life that work great and notice that these are areas where you can flow with whatever happens. You are very effective.
Now look at the areas of your life that don't work. These are areas where you can't flow. Instead of focusing on what on what needs to be done based on the truth, the focus is on fighting the truth. This destroys your ability to find solutions and forces destructive behavior. Here is an example that demonstrates this.
My wife and I have a cat and this cat won't bark. I can yell at the cat and plead with the cat, but no matter what I do. The cat still won't bark. If I am at peace with this fact, I will automatically put my focus on what needs to be done. If I want to hear barking, I can go get a dog.
If I am fighting the facts, all my focus will be on the cat. I will be convinced that the cat is the problem, but the cat is not the problem. The cat is just the cat. The problem is my fighting the truth. When I fight the truth, I get upset and destroy my ability to see what needs to be done. I won't see the possibility of getting a dog and I will create a nightmare in my relationship with the cat.
If you have a relationship or any area of your life that isn't working, there is a cat that isn't barking and you are fighting it. Instead of focusing on solutions, the focus is on resisting. Instead of resolving the problem, you make it worse.
So why do we fight the truth? We fight the truth because the truth hurts. It strikes a nerve. It triggers the childhood hurt of feeling worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling not okay. It's never the truth that we are this way, it's just a suppressed emotion, but it is an emotion that totally runs our lives. Any circumstance that triggers this hurt is perceived subconsciously as a threat. To avoid this threat, we fight, resist, hang on, and withdraw.
The automatic, subconscious avoidance of this hurt creates a core issue that destroys love and sabotages our lives. It makes us defensive and creates a state of fear and upset. It keeps us from finding solutions and forces us to act in a way that magnifies the problem. Every relationship and every area of life that doesn't work can be traced directly to one of these core issues. Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do.
Fortunately, the process for healing this hurt and creating a great life is relatively easy. You just need to know how. You can create a life more wonderful than anything you can imagine, but you have to take the steps.
The best way to find and remove these destructive underlying conditions is to work directly with Bill Ferguson. You can also take The Mastery Course and read the book, Get Your Power Back.
Are you having a difficult time? Do you have a painful relationship? Do you feel stuck or depressed? Does the past keep repeating itself? Would you like to have these areas clear up? You can!
The best way to do this is to schedule a session with Bill Ferguson. You can also get The Mastery Course.
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