We go through life fighting and resisting the truth. What's so is always what's so. When you fight the truth, you magnify and give power to whatever you are resisting. Here are some examples that show how this works.
Imagine four large yellow balloons on the ceiling above you. Now, whatever you do, don't think about them. You just thought about them. Don't do that. What happens when you fight the yellow balloons? You keep thinking about them. In fact, the more you fight the yellow balloons, the more yellow balloons you get.
Resisting the balloons doesn't make them go away. It gives them power and keeps them alive. The same principle applies in every area of life. Whatever you resist gets magnified.
Have you ever had a relationship with someone who had a characteristic that you couldn't stand? What happened to the characteristic when you resisted it? It grew. It grew in your perception and it actually showed up more in the world around you.
Let's look at fear. Fear is created by resisting a future event. For example, if you have a fear of losing someone, you are resisting the future event called, "losing the person." The more you resist losing the person, the bigger your fear. The bigger your fear, the more you feel threatened and the more you hang on. This in turn pushes the person away which brings you the very circumstance that you are resisting.
Look at any area of your life that isn't working. This is an area where you are resisting. Something is the way that it is and you are fighting it. By your resisting, you give this area of life power and keep it from clearing up. Effective action can have a problem area clear up, but not the inner state of resisting.
Look over your life and notice that whatever you fear and resist keeps showing up, over and over. It keeps showing up because you create it.
Action to Take
Make a list of everything in your life that you resist
Then notice that each item on your list is the way that it is whether you like it or not. Notice how totally irrelevant your feelings are. These are areas where you are fighting the truth. Look over your list and see that this is true.
Notice that you magnify whatever you resist
Effective action can handle a situation, but not the inner state of resisting. Resisting does not make a situation clear up. It makes it worse. When you resist, you magnify and give power to whatever you are resisting. Find examples of this in your life.
Notice that what you fear and resist keeps showing up in your life
Look at your life and notice that the past keeps repeating itself. Notice that whatever you fear and resist keeps showing up, over and over. Then notice how much more enjoyable your life would be and how much more effective you would be if you were free of the resisting. Use this course to learn how.
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