How to have any fear lose its power

When you are full of fear, you become very ineffective. You lose your ability to see clearly and tend to make your situation worse. So how do you get rid of fear?

To answer this question, let’s look at the nature of fear. Fear is created by resisting a future event. For example, if I have a fear of losing someone, I am resisting the future event of possibly losing the person.

The more I resist losing the person, the bigger my fear. The bigger my fear, the more I feel threatened. The more I feel threatened, the more I hang on and push the person away. This is the nature of fear. Whatever you fear, you tend to create.

So how do you get rid of fear? To have any fear lose its power, you have to do the opposite of what gives it power. Instead of resisting the future event, be willing in your heart for the fear to come true — not in your actions, but in your heart.

In your actions, do everything you can to make sure your fear doesn’t come true, but in your heart, be willing. “I don’t want it to come true, but if it does, it does. I’ll deal with it.”

The moment you are genuinely willing for your fear to come true, it loses power. You restore your ability to see clearly and can see what needs to be done. Solutions and opportunity can then show up.

Make a list of all your fears and get to the place where you are willing for every one to come true. To learn how, read the section on how to let go.