Letting go: The key to being effective in life

At any moment, your life is exactly the way that it is. This is true no matter how you feel about it. When you are at peace with the truth of the way your situation is, you become very effective. You may not like what’s happening but you see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. Look at the areas of your life that work great. These are areas where you can flow with whatever happens.

Now look at the areas of your life that don’t work. These are areas where you can’t flow. Instead of focusing on what needs to be done based on the facts, all the focus is on fighting the facts. When you do this, you create a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. You destroy your ability to see what needs to be done and you interact in a way that magnifies the problem.

Restoring your peace and your ability to see clearly is the key to handling a difficult situation. It’s also the key to being effective in life. You restore your peace and effectiveness through a process called letting go.

To see an example of letting go, find a time when you were actively resisting something. Then, for whatever reason, you let go of the resisting and said, “The heck with it.” What happened the moment you did this?

Instantly, everything changed. The fear, upset, and tunnel vision disappeared. You restored your inner peace and your ability to see clearly. Solutions appeared and this area of life started clearing up. This is what happens when you let go of the resisting. Life takes care of itself. It’s the resisting and hanging on that sabotages our lives.

To see how letting go works, let’s look at the nature of fear. Fear is created by resisting a future event. The more you resist a future event, the bigger your fear. The bigger your fear, the more you feel threatened. The more you feel threatened, the more you act destructively. This, in turn, causes your fear to come true.

To have any fear lose its power, do the opposite of what creates it. Instead of resisting the future event, be willing for the event to come true — not in your actions, but in your heart. In your actions, do everything you can to make sure your fear doesn’t come true, but in your heart, be willing. “If it happens it happens. I’ll deal with it.”

When you are willing for your fear to come true, the fear loses power. You see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. This is letting go.

Letting go is a state of mind and is totally separate from your actions. Letting go is the inner technique that removes the fear, upset, and tunnel vision so you can see what action you need to take. So be willing. Be willing for your fears to come true and for your situation to never change. Restore your inner peace. Then do whatever you need to do to have your life be great.

The ability to let go is one of the most important skills you can ever learn. It’s also easier said than done. To make letting go easier, there are two things you can do. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens and feel your hurt willingly like a child. Let it come and let it go. Learn more about letting go.

If letting go is difficult, let me walk you through the healing process. You can also watch the Mastery of Life Video Course and read the book, Get Your Power Back.