The key to resolving any problem

Ultimately, the problem areas of life are never the problem. They are the symptom of something deeper. They are the symptom of an underlying condition of resisting or hanging on. This condition destroys our ability to find solutions and forces us to act in a way that magnifies the problem. Here is how it works.

If you have a relationship or any area of life that isn’t working, there is a truth that you are fighting. Something is the way it is and you are resisting it. You may be resisting a particular characteristic in someone or not having enough money to pay the bills. You may be resisting the possibility of something happening.

When we fight the truth of the way something is, we create a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. We also destroy our ability to see what needs to be done. Here is an example that demonstrates this.

My wife and I have a cat that doesn’t bark and no matter how much I hate this fact, it’s still the truth. If I can be at peace with this truth, I can see what I need to do. If I want to hear barking, I can go get a dog. This is an example of where life works. Now let’s look at the opposite.

If I am fighting this truth, all my focus will be on the cat. It will be convinced that the cat is the problem. I will create a nightmare in my relationship with the cat and there will be no focus on getting a dog. I won’t even see this as a possibility.

The same thing is happening in every area of your life that isn’t working. There is a cat that isn’t barking and you are fighting it. Instead of surrendering to this truth and focusing on what needs to be done based on the truth, all the focus is on resisting. Instead of finding solutions, you magnify the problem.

Effective action can handle a situation but not the inner state of resisting. If you could let go of the resisting and surrender to the truth, the fear, upset and tunnel vision would disappear. You would see your situation clearly and could see what needs to be done. Solutions would show up and the problem area would get resolved.

Find a time when you were actively resisting something and then, for whatever reason, you let go of the resisting. Notice what happened. This area of life started clearing up. Life always takes care of itself when we get our egos out of the way.

If you have a relationship or any area of your life that isn’t working and you want to handle this area of suffering, give me a call. We can schedule an appointment. I can walk you through the healing process and create a plan of action.