You can be right or you can have love, but you can’t have both

Being right and having love are opposite. In order to be right, you have to make the other person wrong. This destroys love. It also invites conflict. When you have love, it doesn’t matter who’s right, and conflict disappears.

I saw this demonstrated years ago in a former relationship. Whenever we had an argument, the lady I was with would say, “I’m sorry. Will you please forgive me?” This would instantly melt any resistance I had towards her. My upset disappeared and the experience of love returned.

It didn’t matter if she was right or wrong, or if she should be forgiven or not. She didn’t care. She just wanted to get the experience of love back in her relationship.

This was a powerful example of what is available for all of us. We can choose to have love or we can choose to be right. Personally, I would rather have love. What are you more interested in?

Being right destroys love. It also sabotages your effectiveness. When you are being right, you are stuck in a single point of view. This keeps you in a state of tunnel vision and prevents you from seeing anything else. Solutions and opportunity that would otherwise be available, won’t be available for you.

It is more important to see clearly than to be stuck in a point of view. In fact, the more you are clear that you don’t know, the more you can see. This opens the door to solutions and opportunity.